Real Relaxation by Konstantin Koss

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Stress in the workplace is one of the top topics when it comes to stress-management because oddly enough most stress occurs in the workplace environment. To understand that we first have to understand …

The Primal Roots Of Stress

The animal in us humans has a basic paranoia build in. Have you ever tried to pet an unknown cat and it ran away? It’s basic self-protecting paranoia. And as evolved we humans want to see ourselves, we still run on the same basic “operating system”.

Stress is the basic fight or flight reaction that gets triggered when we see ourselves in danger.

This is key!

Different Kinds Of Stress

You have surely heard of that one before. There are two kinds of stress: constructive stress (eustress) and destructive stress (distress). Constructive stress is very healthy in the workplace since it gives you a drive towards success, keeps you excited, and can lead to a creative state of flow.

The primal reaction reaction to danger is what is referred to as distress. The human biology doesn’t care anymore about getting any kind of work done, it just wants to fight or flight.

That’s when you keep thinking about what a prick your co-worker/boss is and can’t concentrate on your work anymore.

Out Of The Stress-Consciousness

Now I could give you the same old … (cowdung) advice that you get anywhere concerning stress-management. Take a vacation, spend time with your family, work out, volunteer for charity work, get together with your friend and eat healthy.

Poof, all your problems will be gone. Next client please. (…as if …)

Sure, that advice has its place and you will feel much better after a good workout, for example. But let’s not kid ourselves, the next day it will be the same old story … again!

Fact is: You will never get out of being stressed by other people or circumstances in your workplace as long as you percieve them as being danger.

Even if this is unconscious.

The perception of danger is the turning point of eustress (productivity) crossing over into distress.

Making The Unconscious Conscious

Now is the time for some good self-honesty. And this is where it gets hard translating personal coaching into online advice. Let me try it anyway.

1. Remember the last time you got into some seriously uncomfortable stress in the workplace
2. Do what you would do naturally and review the major troubles in that situation
3. Now let’s shift your focus from the situation or person (well, where did I know from that it was outside of yourself …) to yourself. Which of your beliefs play into this trouble?
4. What are you afraid of? If you don’t know, just guess. What could you maybe afraid of? Make a list of possibilities without judging. It’s not necessary. When the situation occurs next time you will be able to point more and more in the direction of which of your guesses was the most accurate. Trust me on that one.
5. Really picture in your mind what the worst possible outcome of the situation may be.
6. What would you do given the circumstance that the worst case scenario really happened? Could you deal with that in any way?
7. What is the most probable outcome of the situation?

Our goal is to get more and more of our common sense into our animalistic fear-reactions. For example, when the stress arises from meeting a deadline or you will loose your job, this can be a very scary situation to be in.

But the only way to get out of being paralyzed by the stress ahead is in fact to get less outcome-dependent. This is the big irony of the universe since independence from the outcome usually produces better outcomes.

Don’t just skim the above steps and go “Yeah, yeah. Done that”. Take. Your. Time. and really do this analysis. I can promise you it will get you further in the long run than any vacation-workout-volunteering-quickfix.

To combine productivity and relaxation, simply avoid destructive stress in the workplace, which proves to be a much harder task than it might sound. Eustress is the flow you are looking for to happily being productive at work.

Sincerely,

Konstantin Koss

PS: Feel free to contact me concerning your specific issues IF you’ve done the above and can report me your results.

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