Why You Need To Feel Pressured To Have A Good Mental Health Sometimes

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There was a time in my life when I worked for peanuts. I was a young and naïve writer back then, trying to find my place in the freelancing world. I accepted whatever project I could get my hands on, even if the client were only willing to give $2 per 500-word article. My mindset was that everyone started at a low rate and that it would get better soon.

Because I did not feel like I had the authority to complain, I decided to write articles for 15 hours every day. From two hours, I managed to write an article within 30 minutes after three months. I was happy because it meant that I could earn $60 daily. As I mentioned above, it was too small compared to the amount of thinking and writing I needed to do, but I sucked up and did it anyway.

However, this deadly routine came to an end a year later once my parents found out how I lived from one paycheck to another. They also learned that I developed PCOS since I was continually cramming and worrying about my work. I tried to make them see that it’s only until another company offered a better rate, but Mom said, “You will be dead before that happens if you keep this up. Leave that job now, come back home, and relax before you seek a new employer.”

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Relaxation Galore

I took the easy way out of my problems and returned to my parents’ house, which felt like a school break every day. I woke up right before lunch, watched TV until the evening, and play video games the entire night. In between those hours, Mom would come by with homemade snacks.

Unfortunately, I loved my vacation too much. Before I knew it, six months already passed, and I was still jobless. Neither of my parents complained about it, but my desire to work and earn money began to wane. I just realized it when I ran out of shaving cream and had to ask for $10 from my mother.

Below are the reasons why it matters to experience pressure for your mental health sometimes.

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Relaxing Too Much Causes Opportunities To Slip Through Your Fingers

Before my hibernation, I still got to send my portfolio and resume to various companies. I assumed that one of them would reply to my email at some point. However, when I started living at my childhood home again, I did not think of opening my email, so I did not see the responses from two different companies that came after a month.

As soon as I saw the emails months later, I could not express how disappointed I was to myself. I tried contacting the publishing companies about the offer, but they said someone already took the spot. If only I did not relax too much, I might have found a new job sooner.

Pressure Forces You To Focus And Get Your Act Together

Like I mentioned above, my parents loved me too much, to the extent that they wanted to give me everything 24/7. Dad said, “You just stay at home, sleep well, and rest. You do not have to chip in for food or electricity.” He meant it, so I genuinely did as I was instructed.

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It was already too late when I noticed that my life was going backward instead of forward. I depended on my parents like a baby and lived each day with the same question in my head every night: “What should I ask Mom to cook tomorrow?” I was more focused and responsible during my days as a struggling writer because I felt pressured to write as many as I could back then.

Over-Relaxation Tends To Keep You From Facing Facts

The irony of life was that I started living like a king when I had no job. Even though I could not buy an ounce of soil in a pot, I stayed in a gated community in Southern California. I did not have money for delicious meals, but I could ask my mother to cook a steak every day if I wanted to.

The problem that I did not see immediately was that the luxury kept me from facing the fact that I was unemployed. I became immune to its effects when my parents took me in once more. Thus, I dealt with job loss belatedly.

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Final Thoughts

Despite my parents’ discouragement, I began to wake up early and look for companies that needed new writers. I stopped playing video games and watching TV all day long, too, since they took up most of my time. Instead, I worked on my portfolio to increase my chances of getting accepted at a decent company. My self-inflicted time limit was one month – whether I had a job or not, I would move out of my parents’ house.

Putting such pressure on myself gave me a sense of direction. I was soon hired as an in-house content writer by a company whose starting salary was $2,000. It merely proved that it’s beneficial to feel pressured sometimes.